I think this is the point where feminism is stuck today. The loudest of the feminists have forgotten that its about choice - allowing each person to choose the role that they want to play and not have it be pre-ordained by their gender. I guess that's part of the reason that I call myself a feminist and not one of the other pretty PC names. I'm tired of letting conservatives define terms and win the psycological war that way. If you concede your definitions at the beginning of the fight, what position do you have to defend?
Anyway, I'm glad to see that we're making progress in the struggle to make life roles gender neutral. My sister-in-law and her husband live in Spokane (it's a fairly conservative town) and he's just taken over the role of stay at home parent so that she could start working full time. And from the stories they told over Thanksgiving, there are several other stay at home husbands that he gets to pal around with, which is very encouraging.
(partially spawned by altoidsaddicts fantastic rant against the rape meme/emails)